Step 2: Create Your Guest List
Updated: Apr 8
Creating a guest list can potentially cause some hurdles, who do you invite? how many should you invite? do you include children? are you trying to combine two families and how will this work? The possibilities are endless so let me help you to answer these questions and help you get your guest list sorted!
As a first step following on from Step 1, setting your budget, this will ultimately feed into your guest list. This is because you've got to consider how much of your budget will cover providing your guests with food and drink. Once you've got this nailed you'll be able to work out how many guests you can realistically invite. It will ultimately come down to budget as if you choose a venue with an average cost per head, you might be able to be more flexible with your guest list whereas if you venue is in the more luxury bracket then you may have to consider cutting down on your guest list.
So that really covers how many you should invite now to tackle who do you invite. Ultimately this depends on how big your family is and your friendship circle is! It also depends on the venues you are considering and the type of wedding you're looking for; small and intimate or large scale. If you're ideal wedding is something small and intimate then you're going to want to keep your numbers under 50 but obviously the sky's the limit if you're going for a large wedding. The largest wedding I attended was 600+! It is also important to include those that you want the most there and those who you are the closest to rather than trying to invite everyone you know, as it can become really stressful when you're trying to manage people who you're not that close to or that you don't see often.
One of the biggest questions that gets asked is do we invite children or not? The best way to tackle this question is two fold, if you have children of your own that are attending the wedding then it's hard to tell others that they can't bring theirs. Therefore if your own children are attending then you will need to include your guests children. However, if you don't have children or simply don't want them at your wedding then it is ok. People's opinions will differ on this but ultimately your wedding day is your day so if this is what you want then be up front with people. If you are planning on not having children at your wedding then it's best to tell your guests on your save the dates so that they can make alternative arrangements or in the worst case scenario, they decided not to attend and you have to be prepared for this.
When it comes to blending two families, this can be a tricky one but it depends your relationship with either side. If your families get on well then no problem but if there are issues then you either have to discuss your plans openly before you move forward or if there are family members who are not on board then you have to consider whether you invite them. As hard as this might be, you want to enjoy your day and not be worrying about if or when something might happen.
Putting your guest list together should be fun and exciting so enjoy the planning process!